My budding love affair with food

As a child, I was a terribly picky eater.  I turned up my nose at any unfamiliar dish and would spend many a night sitting at the dinner table locked in a battle of stubbornness with my parents, refusing to indulge even their most generous compromise offer — the one-bite rule.  I would go so far as to even put the food in my mouth and chew it, but refuse to swallow, finally spitting it into my napkin, or sometimes, leaving the table at the end of a meal to dispose of the stores stuffed in my cheeks in the toilet.

In adulthood, I finally discovered the rewards on adventurous eating.  I will try (almost) anything at least once, often more times, before deciding if it is a new love, something appetizing, edible, or not fit for my palate.  The one food that I try at least once every few months that I just cannot force my taste buds to enjoy, or even tolerate, is raw tomato.  Fortunately, I love the fruit in almost every cooked form it takes, but gaze longingly at those who can eat it like an apple, sprinkled with just a little salt.  It looks so fresh, so juicy, but has an acidic flavor that I simply cannot stand.  What a shame to have to say, “Sure, I’d love a BLT, just hold the T.”  I’ll continue to try it through the years, and will hopefully appreciate its flavor someday.

Still, the length of the list of foods I adore has long since eclipsed that of the foods I dislike.  I can now sum up those items I cannot stomach on a short roster, and many of them have as much to do with their textures as their flavor.  I avoid melons of every variety; I don’t like watermelon, cantaloupe or honeydew at all.  Living in the South, it is such a shame that I don’t partake in juicy slices of ripe watermelon every summer with the rest of my family and friends.  Almost as heretical in my region is my disdain for oysters, even those of the cooked variety.  Included in this family of foods are mussels and clams.  It’s the chewiness.  It doesn’t matter how they are prepared, as I often like whatever they are cooked in, with, or on, it’s the texture of the little mollusks.

I have grown into a person who appreciates most vegetables, provided they are cooked appropriately.  I like many raw and crunchy, sauteed, fried or grilled, whereas their boiled versions hit on another texture problem: snottiness (if that adjective can be appropriate for foods).  I know I’m not the only one who has a problem with boiled squash, okra and eggplant.  In a similar category, foods that can be rendered inedible by certain cooking methods: asparagus and greens.  (The smell of what I call “mushy” asparagus makes me gag to this day.  Literally.)

I detest water chestnuts for their supernatural crunchiness in the midst of softer foods.  I tried calamari, but couldn’t get past the stringiness nor chewiness (the obvious form of the squid’s body and tentacles on the plate before me was another impassible obstacle).  I don’t like radishes or beets, and I’m not sure why exactly.  Radishes bite back too mush, and beets are, well, yucky.  I am learning to appreciate many, many new (to me) varieties of peas and beans.  I had a previous aversion to the mealiness of many of them.  I recently had my mother-in-law’s boiled cabbage (loved it!  and she told me her cooking method, so I’ll try to recreate it) and her mashed butternut squash (no, thanks, for the same reason I don’t like mashed sweet potatoes: sweet, cinnamony orange mush as a side dish.  In fact, I couldn’t tell this apart from a sweet potato casserole at all).

In fact, I took great pleasure in all of the holiday cooking and eating.  I made lasagna the first night, trying a new recipe that does not use ricotta, it has Romano and mozzarella instead, and rolls the ground beef into little herbed meatballs instead of adding it into the sauce.  It was delicious, served with crusty garlic bread and a Caesar salad.  While I was cooking (beware, those tiny, little meatballs take longer to prepare than you would think!), I served my stand-by appetizer, a quick-and-easy spinach and artichoke dip with some garlic and Parmesan pita chips.  It was too quick and easy, perhaps, because our group of six inhaled it.  The next morning, I made a frittata with red and green bell pepper (festive, don’t you think?), green onions and cheddar cheese.  I cooked the Southern breakfast buffet stand-bys of hot and mild sausage patties to accompany it, which was a good thing, as the frittata recipe could have been doubled and would still have disappeared with no leftovers.

On Saturday, I baked.  No holiday is complete with an array of goodies on the counters for people to munch on at will.  I made cookies — chocolate chip, peanut butter and strawberry jam-filled shortbread.  Friends brought more sweets — Rocky Road brownies, fudge and jalapeno pepper jelly.  I had an appetizer on the counter every afternoon.  Once it was a sharp cheddar cheese ball and crackers, another time was spicy sausage balls (big hit).  I impressed with my second time to make Asian-inspired beef rolls with sweet chili sauce.  That amuse-bouche preceded my beef stir-fry and hot and sour soup for dinner.  One night’s dinner was seafood gumbo from a local restaurant (the third time we have purchased it from them to serve at our home — it is hands-down the best gumbo outside of Louisiana, even beating amazing seafood restaurants I have sampled all along the Gulf Coast).  My in-laws cooked an amazing prime rib for Christmas dinner, accompanied by boiled cabbage, mashed squash, baked potatoes and salad.  Another night, they provided scrumptious smoked ribs and salmon, potato salad and cole slaw.  They also bought a country ham, which we sliced and browned for breakfast — great with eggs, grits and toast.  Overall, we ate mass quantities of delicious foods.  Yum.

I could go on and on — I have, in fact.  This feels like the tip of the iceberg for my exploration of the best food has to offer.  It can range from dishes like these, which are down-home comfort foods, to elegant delicacies I attempt at home, or, better yet, those we are served in some of the amazing restaurants our city has to offer.  I cannot wait to put into effect one of my New Year’s resolutions: to try something new, revisit something worthy, or revise something needy from the vast array of food offerings available.  I will not automatically settle into a revolving dinner schedule that requires mindless preparation and the same old ingredients week after week.  This family will experience a variety of foods so that my two girls will not grow up pushing their plates away whenever something unfamiliar or green appears.  Vive la food!

P.S. I have added an awesome food blog to my blogroll, and I expect more to follow.  I love reading other people’s ideas, opinions and revelations on subjects of interest to me, even more so when the authors seem to be impossibly adorable.

Published in: on December 30, 2007 at 2:01 pm Leave a Comment
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Another holiday season comes to a close

Just when you think you can’t take anymore, all of the gifts are unwrapped and the holidays wrap up.  Don’t get me wrong — I love the spirit and festivities that surround Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.  I just love the end of all of that joyousness as well.  I can understand why every news magazine features stories about the levels of stress and depression that heighten over the holidays.  There is immense pressure to conform to some preconceived notion of a perfect holiday season, from quality time with loved ones, family and friends to decorations, gifts and enough food to sustain a small country.  With all of the rejoicing going on, why not celebrate the end of this holiday madness too?

Today the remaining houseguests staying in my home will leave.  New Year’s Eve still hovers on the horizon, but we don’t place the same overwhelming importance on that day, thankfully.  I will slowly start to adjust our home to regular living again, removing the trimmings and holiday decor and finding places to store our new belongings (read: the onslaught of toys from Santa and others).  We will pare our diet down to sensible serving sizes and revert to a normal routine.  Bakeware will go back into lesser-used cabinets and everyone will go to sleep in their own beds at reasonable hours.  The amount of trash manufactured daily will decrease by 90 percent.

Best of all, we can take a collective deep breath, remark how much we enjoyed seeing everyone and how nice the gifts were, and shape our memories to include all of the sparkle and magic of the season and none of the moodiness, bickering or general stress that crept about the house and everyone in it.  It’s over, and that’s the best gift to receive.

Published in: on December 27, 2007 at 5:51 am Leave a Comment
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After midnight: The phenomenon of late-night infomercials

I have actually enjoyed regular sleeping patterns lately, so tonight’s insomnia has been a bit of a shock.  In an attempt to make the most of my waking hours, I did work on some of the myriad things to be done in preparation for my daughter’s 5th birthday party this Saturday.  Then I felt compelled to fire up the laptop to do a little Wiki search.  It’s about time I learned the secret to the Hair Club for Men.

It’s amazing how many products and solutions come out at night.  While perusing the TV Guide Channel for something salvageable to watch (thank God for the syndication of Sex in the City and Scrubs), I lost count of the shows appearing only as “Paid Programming.”  I think Ron Popeil was on 75% of them.  Apparently the best time to reach the target market interested in reversing hair loss (or appearing as if you did), talking to other “singles” for free (yeah, right), earning fast income with absolutely no education, experience or common sense, and getting your structured settlement in a lump sum is sometime between midnight and 4 a.m.

The common theme that I found was that most of those items or services for sale don’t come cheap.  Is there some millionaires’ club I don’t know about?  (Not that there would be any reason for me to be clued in.)  The aforementioned hair loss cult has a two-grand sign-up fee and a monthly maintenance from $200 to $700.  I doubt the singles willing to provide late-night chatting, or more, to obviously in-demand strangers are a bargain, probably charging several bucks a minute for the really juicy conversation.  And anyone willing to teach you their personal get-rich-quick formula is not in it for the warm fuzzy feeling it brings; rather, the entire lesson is learned as soon as the late-night bait takes the solicitation hook, line and sinker.  (Here it is for free: I’ll get rich if I convince you to send me lots of money to learn how to get rich.  Now that you’ve bought into it, you know how to do it yourself.  Go out there and sucker more people into it!  You can thank me later.)

Now, at 3:40 a.m., I yearn for a few of the classics: Ginsu and anything with what my father calls a PIYAN (PIE-yan), identified by the phrase, “Plus, if you act now!”  More than anything, I’d like a bit of deep, rejuvenating sleep.  I cheated a bit ago and swilled a little Children’s Benadryl, so I feel like I’m as close to officially drowsy as I’m going to get.  Time to hit the sheets and say goodnight to those poor, lonely, buxom women who aren’t ready to go to sleep, but feel the need to burn up the phone lines.  I should also remind myself that it’s actually not a big deal to cook my spaghetti in a pot, but it would be a bitch to have to clean up some special contraption every time I have a starch craving.  I’ve never felt the need to cut through an aluminum can with a knife, nor do I care enough about leftovers or splitting family-size packs of meat to need a food-saving vacuuming system.  For the men out there — balding, just like any other aging process that men go through — isn’t that big of a deal to us women.  I, for one, am too worried about my own wrinkles/gray hairs/weight gain/[insert any real or self-perceived female beauty flaw here] to care about yours.  It’s only fair to mention the unfair double standard applied to the aging of the sexes — where men become silver foxes and women just get old.

Besides, I’ve seen this episode of Frasier, and it’s easily dated by Kelsey Grammer’s long, flowing wavy locks as being one of the first couple of seasons.  Now that I have gone down that brain tangent, which took me all the way back to my memories of Coach on Cheers, I’m feeling particularly antiquated.  Fortunately, it’s my daughter’s birthday to celebrate this weekend, and I have a few more months to brace myself for the Big 3-0.  Gotta go put on my Oil of Olay Regenerist night cream.  I have a sneaking suspicion I’ll need that “mini-facelift” in the morning.

Published in: on December 13, 2007 at 9:24 am Comments (2)
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Oh, what a night

I realize that a lot of the misery I deal with I bring upon myself.  Tonight is no exception.  Rapt with whatever time-killing activity I was pursuing at the time, I looked up at the clock when I was already pushing my limit to leave in time to get my four-year-old from preschool to dance class.  At that point, I jumped up and began my ritual frantic scurrying to gather the necessary items before leaving the house.  Today, I hadn’t managed to put on makeup, so I had to grab my cosmetics bag to use its contents in route lest I spark fear in all the small children at the school.  I also had to get my daughter’s dance bag, which contained last week’s discarded school clothes and her shoes, but lacked clean dance attire.  The next few minutes involved searching for tights and a leotard for her to change into.  Then I remembered my self-imposed deadline for getting the invitations to that same daughter’s birthday party in the mail that day, so I grab the invitations, envelopes, seals, return address labels and stamps.  Next, noticing my sudden nausea (anxiety, you think?), I grab a Solo cup of tea.  After picking up my purse and throwing my phone into it, I remember the preschool’s directory — imperative to my mailing task.  I run out the door five minutes before dance class starts to pick my daughter up from preschool.

Only a fraction of a mile away from my house, I remember that I was supposed to drop off various borrowed materials at my friend’s house so she can complete an eBay sale.  It was just too late to turn around; my daughter would have missed her entire class.  I trekked forward.  In a whirlwind, I walk into her preschool, sign the pick-up sheet, and usher my daughter out the door.  I attempted to teach her multi-tasking on the drive to dance class, instructing her how to take off her shoes and socks in anticipation of throwing on her dance garb in the parking lot, saving precious few minutes in the changing room at the studio.  While stripping clothing as I drove down the road, my observant four-almost-five-year-old remarked how the scene seemed “just like we’re in a commercial.”  I mused about what product we’d be selling, and settled on Excedrin.

Finally, though a little late, later still as she had to “potty” once we arrived, my daughter got to her dance class.  I went across the street to the daycare my 20-month-old girl attends to find a pint-sized table where I could address envelopes.  The daycare staff agreed to let me stay out of my younger daughter’s sight so I could have solo time in which to scribble names and stuff invitations.  I’m not sure how many mistakes I made in my hurry, but I hope that the contents of the envelope register as the most important part of the mailing.  Spotted by my baby girl just five minutes before it was time to go back across the street to round out the evening commute, I scooped her up with the rest of my clutter and made my way back to the car.  This was not before my husband had again called daycare, like it’s my answering service, to be sure that I was there because I hadn’t picked up when he called (10 times in five minutes).  I had left my cell in my car.  In all honesty, I do appreciate the concern.

Once both girls are snug in their car seats I spend a few more minutes wrapping up the invitations.  (I got to send one sans postage as one of my daughter’s friends goes to my little one’s daycare and his mom came to get him while I was hunched over the toddler table.)  Frantically stuffing, sealing, and affixing return address labels, I ceased to retain tolerance for typical child behavior.  There was lying about the seatbelt’s fastening, screaming, crying and whining — all without any contribution from me, the diligent mom trying to do the best I could (yes, that’s a little martyr talk for you; I do deserve it once in a while).  It was just the way some days wind down, and the girls were feeding each other’s tantrums.  Practicing going to my Zen place, I finished my task, put the car in gear, and finally left the dance studio parking lot.

My attempt at Zen only takes me so far.  I crooned and cajoled, spoke sharply and sternly, threatened, pleaded and bribed.  I tried anything to make the girls happy at least until we reached home.  And then I remembered my friend’s items she needed ASAP.  Just then, my husband called.  He was home already, and I thought he might be willing to make the quick drop-off for me.  He wasn’t.  Now I’m driving frustrated, with a cacophony of  unhappy noises coming from the backseat.  I’m past trying to get those sounds to quiet, so I start trying to drown them out instead.  I slowly turn the radio dial.  Suddenly, I become conscious of the lyrics: “Do you want to die?/Do you want to die?/I promise you/I will treat you well/My sweet angel/So help me, Jesus ” – ”Possum Kingdom” by Toadies.  I started laughing.  This was the Excedrin commercial — the unrated version.

Before any of you literal types worry that suicidal tendencies exist, let me assure you, they don’t.  Even as my head pounded with every sound in the car, I couldn’t help but smile when I heard my four-year-old start singing the song I made up when her little sister was born: a song for my daughter, like the one I made up for her almost three-and-a-half years earlier.  That’s the thing with children: you gotta love them.  You just have to.

I made it home, cooked a quick dinner, fed the family and delivered my friend’s stuff.  Now I’ve recapped it all, simultaneously wasting time (!), in this blog, and I feel catharsis.  I can begin tomorrow anew, with no retained negative feelings about the stress of those few hours.  That’s the beauty of it.  Your children are such perfect creatures in their innocence, their wonder and their inspiring behavior that you cannot dwell on the trials of parenting for long.  If you did, you’d miss all of the amazing things they can show you.

It also doesn’t hurt to have a glass or two of wine once they fall asleep.  Hey, that’s “me time.”

Published in: on December 3, 2007 at 11:44 pm Leave a Comment